tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102565543549142384.post5599052909494894759..comments2024-02-24T01:54:03.710-05:00Comments on Regent Law Family Restoration: Family Restoration for Children of Failed Online MatchesRegent Law Centershttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07743497742242077738noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102565543549142384.post-54474208865445256422012-11-26T13:07:07.670-05:002012-11-26T13:07:07.670-05:00It is unfortunate that the judicial system, which ...It is unfortunate that the judicial system, which decides cases in the best interest of the child, often hinders the best interest of the child in the process. The most formative years of a child's life are the very early years when they begin to develop an understanding of trust or mistrust, of autonomy or shame and doubt, and of initiative or guilt. All of these developmental stages occur in the first several years of life, and when children are left in limbo by the judicial system, it is often difficult for them to move positively through these stages of development. Maybe that is a reason to pray more often for juvenile court judges, guardian ad litem attorneys, and for family restoration. Ultimately, when two parents bring a custody dispute to court, it is the judge’s decision to determine the in the best interest of the child. As a result, couples who decide to do online dating must consider long term consequences of whatever relationship may develop and know for certain that the relationship is monogamous and will result in a lifelong commitment, especially if children are to be involved.Heather Patenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102565543549142384.post-64317875959266885562012-04-09T17:31:55.439-04:002012-04-09T17:31:55.439-04:00I agree that online dating can be very risky (to s...I agree that online dating can be very risky (to say the least) and that marriage is the best way to lessen the risk for children resulting from a relationship formed after a meeting on the web. I wanted to add an example of online dating with a positive outcome. I know someone who met her husband after participating in online dating through eHarmony.com. Both she and her husband are Christian divorcees with children by their previous marriages. As a result of their marriage, their new family became quite extensive. (He had four children, and she had one child.) They have been happily married now for a number of years, and she loves having a house full of kids. Before seeing online dating work in this situation, I would have been very skeptical (and still am to a great extent). I think meeting someone online is like meeting someone in person--it takes a great amount of wisdom and guidance from God to know if the other person is who God wants you to marry. The key remains, as Margo observed, to marry before having children--regardless of how the couple met--because this is the way God designed it to be.Kathleennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102565543549142384.post-35971029768946420102012-03-04T22:32:14.809-05:002012-03-04T22:32:14.809-05:00Thank you for the very informative post. Although ...Thank you for the very informative post. Although it highlights a new dating trend, online dating, a similar situation could have happened even if the couple had met under different circumstances. <br /><br />This unfortunate story sheds light on the fact that bringing children into the world outside of a happy and stable marriage is risky. So many times people do not really know their partners the way they thought they did before they had a child and it creates an unpleasant outcome in many different circumstances.<br /><br />While I feel for the mother and wish her all the best in her plight, I appreciate how this post really illustrates that the best environment for a child is within a committed and loving marriage. Promises made between people can be empty so everyone dating, whether it is online or in person, should be wary.Margohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13599544651129688996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102565543549142384.post-78360748421933229082012-03-03T18:03:39.522-05:002012-03-03T18:03:39.522-05:00I am so glad that you posted this story to bring t...I am so glad that you posted this story to bring to our attention to this issue. The internet poses many new problems as it continues to develop. I have always been concerned with the problems these sites pose but never considered how a child could be affected. The internet and specifically dating websites allow predators to use or hurt others. <br /><br />It is truly disturbing someone would purposely deceive a mother into giving up her parental rights. A child deserves to know her mother. It is a shame that the judicial system keeps this mother from her child. I agree based on the factors you have posted that it would be in the best interests of the child to be reunited with her mother. <br /><br />It is clear that Kristy wants to be with her child. I am sure fighting a long and drawn out court battle is not easy on Kristy emotionally or financially but she is making sacrifices to make sure her daughter is not taken away permanently. I also agree with Ladonna that the websites should do more. They should perform background checks and review posted profiles.Heather Moorenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7102565543549142384.post-40658670357117087982012-02-28T19:36:07.943-05:002012-02-28T19:36:07.943-05:00Thank you for this post Alana. I have always been ...Thank you for this post Alana. I have always been weary of these sites... not that I have really considered going on a dating site to find "love." But I know people who has, and it's scary. A friend of mine had a co-worker who met someone on eharmony.com and was raped on the first date. People "troll" websites all the time, and when you meet them you realize they are really trolls.<br /><br />I think this story is horrific. I also think the websites should do more background checking of the people they allow on the dating site, especially since it is a paid service. I believe dating services can work, look at Millionaire Matchmakers on Bravo. Social Media and the internet can be a scary place, and it does tear families apart.misshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05937535122830290434noreply@blogger.com