Showing posts with label pornography. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pornography. Show all posts

9.05.2013

Protecting Children from Pornography Online

Parents can help to protect their children from the dangers of living in a sexualized culture, something which can become particularly apparent when viewing websites online.  Family restoration can happen when parents get involved with protecting their children.



The executive director of Parenting at Focus on the Family, Leon Wirth, recently hosted a webinar for Net Nanny, a software program company dedicated to keeping families safe online.  The program, entitled, "What If My Child Viewed Porn and How Do I Handle This?" was the result of collaboration between Focus and Net Nanny to produce a series of webinars on pornography, online predators, and cyber-bullying.  Wirth is a co-author of the book "One Year Father-Daughter Devotions" for Tyndale House Publishers. Read the entire article here



Some helpful advice for parents includes:

1. Know the shows, know the movies, know the books in pop culture today.

2. Don’t assume the best or the worst, but get into your child’s world. Spend time with your kids.

3. Don’t be afraid to set some standards for your family and explain those standards to your family.

4.  Know the devices in your home. A lot of parents make the mistake of thinking, “Well, it’s just an iPod; it’s just an MP3 player; it’s just a TV; it’s just a DVD player.” There are so many devices now where outbound or inbound content can be reached. TV’s have YouTube access and Web browsers on them now.  Video game systems, for a long time, have had Web browsers on them. Get to know those devices.

5. Find the parental controls on devices and wrestle with how to work them. Contact the manufacturer online or by phone if you need help.

6.  Be lovingly vigilant about the fact that there are way more access points than there used to be.  If it’s electronic, you need to understand how it works. 



FOR MORE INFORMATION
Watch Leon Wirth’s Net Nanny webinar, “What If My Child Viewed Porn?”

View other Focus webinars on Net Nanny.

6.29.2012

The Price of Innocence in Child Pornography

Child pornography is destructive - to children, to families, and to society. In our Juvenile Law course, Elizabeth Stahlman, Regent Juris Doctor 2012, recently researched the new mandatory restitution law in Virginia for child pornography, and what she found was shocking. Children are receiving meager financial restitution from those adults who have used them for pornography. In a good intentioned attempt to restore victimized children by compensating those child victims monetarily wtih restitution actually works to further their humiliation.

The article entitled “Putting a Price on Innocence,” discusses the challenges facing the 2011 Virginia legislation that requires possessors of child pornography to pay a mandatory restitution award to identifiable victims. This is a topic that is being widely discussed on a federal level in many recent journal publications in the context of the federal Mandatory Victim Restitution Act, which is almost identical to the new Virginia legislation. The issues that arise with restitution for child pornography victims have shown splits in the decisions of the federal circuit courts. Stahlman's article addresses these issues and possible solutions to better accomplish the goals of the legislation. She writes,

"The change in the law was first seen in the Louisa County court when Ryan Macklin was brought to trial. The court required Macklin to pay $1,000 to each of the two identifiable victims. $1,000 certainly will not restore the two victims to the position they were in before being exploited for the child pornography market. So what does this say? Is Virginia putting a price tag on innocence? Does awarding $1,000 as restitution cheapen the innocence of children? Is it worth $1,000 to put a child pornography victim through the trauma of being notified of the offense?

This article addresses whether the new Virginia law mandating restitution for possession of child pornography effectively accomplishes the intended purposes of restitution. The article will discuss how the amended Virginia statute resembles the 1996 federal Mandatory Victim Restitution Act (MVRA) and what we can learn from the 15 years of case law and study coming from the MVRA. Section I will discuss the amended Virginia statute, the MVRA, and the purpose of the statutes. Section II will discuss the legal issues that stem from awarding mandatory restitution to child pornography victims. Section III will discuss the non-legal consequences that affect the victims of child pornography when restitution orders are mandatory. Finally, Section IV will offer possible solutions that will accentuate the positive aspects of mandatory restitution orders to possessors of child pornography while diminishing some of the negative consequences." Read the entire article here.

These attempts to mandate victim restitution may appear to be nice legislation, but unless righted, as Stahlman suggests in her piece, they may work to further demean child pornography victims, rather than restore them in any fashion. Pornography destroys an individual's innocence. Paying restitution for it may not work out as well as federal and state legislators had hoped.

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2.10.2011

The Heart of the Life Issue: A Clean Heart

Life is about relationships, and communication in those relationships can sometimes be challenging, as you can see: http://www.flixxy.com/woman-language-translator.htm.
New life begins with that communication.  The progression from a relationship to an abortion goes something like this: Relationship leads to sexual activity; sexual activity leads to pregnancy; pregnancy leads to new life - or abortion.  
When the evidence on abortion is considered, American Christians look much like the world they live in.  According to the Center for Bio-Ethical Reform, in 2008 "[w]omen identifying themselves as Protestants obtain 37.4% of all abortions in the U.S.; Catholic women account for 31.3%, Jewish women account for 1.3%, and women with no religious affiliation obtain 23.7% of all abortions. 18% of all abortions are performed on women who identify themselves as 'Born-gain/Evangelical'; and 93% of all abortions occur for social reasons (i.e. the child is unwanted or inconvenient)." See http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/fast… 
These numbers are similar to those reported by a study by the Alan Guttmacher Institute cited at http://www.abort73.com/abortion/abortion_in_the_church/  found that “43% of all aborting women identify themselves as Protestant, while 27% identify themselves as Catholic.  If these numbers are accurate, that leaves us with the shocking conclusion that 70% of all abortions in the U.S. are performed on women who claim the name of Jesus Christ.”  This is hard to stomach.   Now it is true that the Guttmacher Institute supports abortion, and it is the research arm of Planned Parenthood and it might have an interest in demonstrating high numbers of “religious” women aborting, and surveys can be manipulated, but it is also undeniable that abortion is happening with great frequency in the church.  Christians are aborting in great numbers. 
Abortion in the Christian Community is a major problem, and it make family restoration all the more challenging. 
From the life web project called “Hands and Feet” at http://newheights.wordpress.com/2008/03/17/abortion-statistics/ the author writes:
[In researching this material] this is the number that hit me the hardest. Only 24% of abortions are performed on those who call themselves non-religious. … This means that nearly 70% of abortions are on those who call themselves Christians [or identify somehow with Christianity]. Do you hear why trying to legislate abortion floors me? If believers would just stop having abortions then the number could drop by 70%. Christians are fighting to make something illegal that’s largest client base are other Christians.  You can claim that these are fringe believers… but our local center will tell you [that some who chose abortion] are leading ministries within their church and are active in the Christian community. Can we not see how this smacks of hypocrisy to the unbeliever? Maybe we should wait until the numbers change before we start pointing fingers at those who support and perform abortions. Maybe we should look at our hearts because if I’m not mistaken laws don’t bring holiness.
Abortion in the Christian Community is a major problem. What these numbers do clarify is that there are a lot of people in America who claim some allegiance to Christ but do not live as Christians.  There are also a lot of churches that are not sufficiently exposing the evil of abortion.  Some fear offending those in the congregation, some simply avoid the topic for privacy reasons, and some rationalize that is it not happening in their congregation or Christian community.  The secrecy and privacy surrounding abortion is a very convenient way to hide the public sin of out-of-wedlock pregnancy. 
Many Christians are adamantly pro-life until they or someone they love is faced with an unplanned pregnancy – especially one which threatens to expose their own adultery or fornication.  82% of all abortions in the United States are performed on unmarried women.  This means that at least 82% of all abortions are a direct result of sexual sin.  “Where sexual sin ceases, abortion will cease, both in the church and in the population at large.”  Can abortion be eliminated from the world if abortion is not eliminated from the church?   
The research of Christian demography expert, George Barna, was cited in Statistics For a Changing Church: Of the ten moral behaviors evaluated, a majority of Americans believed that at least three of the ten listed activities were 'morally acceptable.' “Those included gambling (61%), co-habitation (60%), and sexual fantasies (59%). Nearly half of the adult population felt that two other behaviors were also morally acceptable: having an abortion (45%) and having a sexual relationship with someone of the opposite sex other than their spouse (42%). About one-third of the population gave the stamp of approval to pornography (38%), profanity (36%), drunkenness (35%) and homosexual sex (30%).”  However, the one bright spot was that “...Less than one out of every ten evangelical Christians maintained that adultery, gay sex, pornography, profanity, drunkenness and abortion are morally acceptable." (See Barna Research, Nov. 2003, at http://www.crossroad.to/charts/church-statistics.html.) There is hope, but the church in America is not what is should be.
Abortion is really about sexual impurity.  It is about the sexual impurity of Christians.  The inverse - sexual purity - must start with a clean heart.  And a clean heart is one’s integrity.  Our personal choices reflect the condition of our hearts.  A brief look at some of our personal choices is revealing. 

Consider intimacy apart from marriage.  A study in 1991 of college freshmen showed that "about two- thirds of men (66.3 percent) and slightly more than one-third of women (37.9 percent) support the idea of sex between people who have known each other only for a short time." See American Freshman annual study.  As sobering as such statistics may be, they indicate that not everyone is sexually active, but many are.  A 2009 study revealed that “46% of high school students had sexual intercourse and 13.8% had four or more sex partners during their life.” See http://www.sadd.org/stats.htm.

“There is growing evidence that marital infidelity is [] a problem among Christians. An article in a 1997 issue of Newsweek magazine noted that various surveys suggest that as many as 30 percent of male Protestant ministers have had sexual relationships with women other than their wives. The Journal of Pastoral Care in 1993 reported a survey of Southern Baptist pastors in which 14 percent acknowledged they had engaged in "sexual behavior inappropriate to a minister." It also reported that 70 percent had counseled at least one woman who had had intercourse with another minister.”  See http://www.infidelity-etc.com/index.php/4.

Consider pornography.   As reported in an article by Kenny Luck on Pastors.com, in 2007 70% of Christians admitted to struggling with pornography in their daily lives.  And you guessed it, that was picked up and report by CNN.  In another poll taken in August of 2006, 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women admitted an addiction to pornography. 60% of the women who answered the survey admitted to having significant struggles with lust; 40% admitted to being involved in sexual sin in the past year; and 20% of the church-going female participants said they struggled with looking at pornography on an ongoing basis. (See also ChristiaNet poll reported by Marketwire.com).   In December of 2000, the National Coalition to Protect Children and Families surveyed 5 Christian Campuses to see how the next generation of believers was doing with sexual purity, and they found that 48% of males admitted to current porn use; 68% of males said they intentionally viewed a sexually explicit site at [their Christian] school.

Roger Charman of Focus on the Family's Pastoral Ministries reports that approximately 20 percent of the calls received on their Pastoral Care Line are for help with issues such as pornography and compulsive sexual behavior. A 1996 Promise Keepers survey at one of their stadium events revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance were involved with pornography within one week of attending the event.  In a 2000 Christianity Today survey, 33% of clergy admitted to having visited a sexually explicit Web site. Of those who had visited a porn site, 53% had visited such sites “a few times” in the past year, and 18% visit sexually explicit sites between a couple of times a month and more than once a week.  Out of 81 pastors surveyed (74 males 7 female), 98% had been exposed to porn; 43% intentionally accessed a sexually explicit website.  (See National Coalition survey of pastors, Seattle (April 2000).)  In his book, "Men's Secret Wars", Patrick Means reveals a confidential survey of evangelical pastors and church lay leaders. Sixty-four percent of these Christian leaders confirm that they are struggling with sexual addiction or sexual compulsion including, but not limited to use of pornography, compulsive masturbation, or other secret sexual activity.  34% of female readers of Today's Christian Woman's online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll.  In March of 2002 Rick Warren’s (author of the Purpose Driven life) Pastors.com website conducted a survey on porn use of 1351 pastors: 54% of the pastors had viewed Internet pornography within the last year, and 30% of these had visited within the last 30 days.  From another source, 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home. (See Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003.)  

These two areas alone, intimacy apart from marriage and pornography, create much of the temptation that leads to unintended pregnancies, which lead to abortion.  The result of the lack of self governance in these areas is personal devastation.  It is community devastation as well.  So what is the solution? 

 A clean heart is one’s integrity.  In 2 Corinthians 1, the Apostle Paul expressed his dismay with the Corinthians, and exhorted them to self governance and personal discipline because they were indwelt by Christ, but were not acting like it.  Instead, they were grieving him deeply, so much so that he could not bear the pain of visiting them.  But he clarified the forgiveness available to the repentant sinner in 2 Corinthians 2.
 
 Genuine Repentance is Necessary.  Involvement with anything that compromises your integrity, or corrupts your heart requires repentance.   In Psalm 51:1-9, King David comes to terms with his own sin.  Verse 10 begs for the creation of a clean heart, a pure heart, and the renewal of a steadfast spirit.  Only then can forgiveness and mercy be appropriated.

Forgiveness & Mercy are Available.  I John 1:9 clarifies these facts, stating that when we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  He will not cast you from His presence; and He will renew the joy you ought to have in Christ (Psalm 51:11-12). When you confess and experience genuine repentance, you experience real forgiveness, real mercy, being spared what you really deserve, and instead can experience new joy in Christ.  This is the joy of a clean heart.  Only these can bring an end to abortion.
A clean heart is the heart of the life issue.  A clean heart is at the foundation of family restoration.  A clean heart enjoys relationships, maintains that clean heart with genuine repentance and a changed life on a moment by moment basis.  In this manner the Christian community will produce less abortion.   Our future depends on it. 

1.03.2011

Early Sexuality Destroys Childhood ldeals of Family

"Pedophiles New Playground: How Primetime Television and Movies Are Supporting Pedophilia," by Caitlin Walters, Regent Law Juris Doctor Candidate 2011, is an excellent analysis of popular entertainment as excellent fodder for child abuse by pedophiles. After detailing some notable scenes in recent film and television, she writes,
"Primetime television and movies are making it so that pedophiles no longer have to purchase illegal pornography to fulfill their perverted desires. Pedophiles can simply turn on the television or go to the movies and see depictions of minors acting sexually or having a relationship with someone over the age of 18. These depictions could lead a pedophile to believe that it is acceptable to view children as sexual objects and acceptable for children to engage in sexual acts. Even more dangerous than a pedophile believing that children are sexual objects and that it is acceptable for adults to engage in sexual relationships with minors is that minors may start to believe that these are acceptable behaviors. It may be easy for the average viewer to only view a television show or movie that paints a minor as a sexual being for the entertainment value. However, the public needs to realize that pedophiles and minors do not have this same ability.

Society needs to decide whether the potential of high ratings and entertainment value provided by these shows is worth encouraging or supporting pedophiles and confusing and victimizing children. Section I of this paper will discuss how the media is giving pedophiles materials that they can watch privately to fulfill their desires, replacing illegal child pornography. Child pornography is a form of child abuse that presents unique dangers to the victims. This section will discuss part of the history of American court's treatment of child pornography. It will demonstrate how the line between prime time television and pornography is becoming increasingly blurry. It is disturbing to think that the types of images that a pedophile uses to satisfy their perverted desires are the same images that are shown during the largest watched time slot on television. Section II of this paper will discuss how pedophiles use child pornography to victimize children, and how different television shows and movies are making it possible for pedophiles to move away from using illegal child pornography. Pedophiles use child pornography to desensitize children to sexual acts and to give the child something to mimic. This section will discuss how the provocative scenes in movies like Little Miss Sunshine and network television shows like Glee can be used by pedophiles to seduce children. Section III of this paper will briefly question whether the increasing number of television shows and movies that sexualize children has the possibility of resulting in a greater acceptance of this type of behavior.

The media has historically desensitized society to many controversial topics. Multiple groups are fighting for recognition and support for relationships between minors and adults. Physical relationships between adults and minors are present in different shows and movies, including shows that are on "family friendly" stations like ABC Family. Research has shown that media plays an important role in adolescent sexual socialization. This role may lead to a greater acceptance of minors acting sexually, and an eventual desensitization and acceptance of sexual relationships between adults and minors."

Read the entire article here.