3.11.2014

How Should a Christian Lawyer Handle Divorce?

This excellent guest post is offered by current Family Law student, Kahryn Rombach:

What is your position on divorce? What will you, a Christian, do when a potential client walks into your office and asks you to help him dissolve his marriage?” My family law professor regularly challenges her students to understand their personal convictions regarding divorce as well as the law of their jurisdictions, which inspired me to take a closer look at a nuance of the canons of my religion, Roman Catholicism. The Catholic practice of annulment is generally absent from conversations about divorce, but it should be a discussion point for Christians because it is a meaningful example of the reverence accorded to sacramental matrimony by the Church, a reverence that all denominations should embrace.
 
Sacraments are outward signs of inward grace, which provide participants with the life of God in their soul and the graces necessary to fully enjoy the human experience. In matrimony, the spouses administer the sacrament to one another, and their union is a unique, holy expression of the love Christ bears for His Church, and a reflection of His unity with her. Catholic marriages enjoy a presumption of validity and bind the spouses for life. This union is natural, supernatural, and unbreakable. So, for Catholics, “marriage” and “divorce” are not two sides of the same coin. Catholic marriages do “end,” but not in divorce.
 
Divorce claims to terminate the marital contract, but, for Catholics, this is impossible. For us, “a ratified and consummated marriage cannot be dissolved by any human power or for any reason other than death” (Catechism of the Catholic Church, n. 2382). However, Catholic marriages can, under certain circumstances, be annulled. A finding of nullity requires a determination that some essential factor was missing, such that the marriage was not validly contracted and therefore nonexistent. In other words, if there was not a full, free decision to marry, or if some factor in radical opposition to marriage is present in the relationship, the union is considered invalid from its inception. The most common reasons for a declaration of nullity are inadequacy of judgment, psychological incapacity, and the lack of the requisite intentions to have children, remain faithful, or stay married till death (www.americancatholic.org). The process of obtaining annulment forces the couple and the Church to carefully examine their relationship, and, if possible, to try to save it.
 
Unfortunately, most Protestant denominations do not consider marriage to be a sacrament, and their divorce conventions often resemble those of secular civil unions. The secular perspective that a marriage is like any other contractual relationship which can begin and end at will does incredible damage to the spiritual realities of the spouses’ union to each other in God. Nevertheless, Christians generally do not have annulment available to them, and obtain a quick civil divorce to change their legal relationship status and end their spiritual union. This robs them of opportunities for accountability, reconciliation, and community support. It excludes pastors and other mentors from the process, often leaving two emotionally wounded individuals isolated with the mistaken impression that a lawyer is their only way out. Too often, no one suggests productive alternatives, or challenges the spouses to change, forgive, or re-commit. Too often, there is no one to speak for God, the third party to the contract.
 
Annulment addresses these concerns. The process is rightfully long and arduous, because it places an appropriately strict level of scrutiny on the validity of the desire to negate a vow taken in the presence of God. It connects the couple to counselors, priests, and canon lawyers who can protect them in case of harm inflicted by a spouse, or correct them in cases of sin or selfishness. It gives God a voice in the process and preserves the dignity of all parties. Analogous practices that non-Catholic denominations might consider when a marriage ends are beyond the scope of this essay. But all Christians should prayerfully consider the respect due to the supernatural realities of binding themselves in marriages that image the union of Christ and His Church, and should advocate Christ-centered structures that support these unions and preserve them where possible.

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