Showing posts with label sexual behavior. Show all posts
Showing posts with label sexual behavior. Show all posts

8.10.2012

Families and Societies are Weakened by Marriage "Bargaining"

Last month's Public Discourse posted a pivotal piece entitled Marriage, Religious Liberty, and the “Grand Bargain” by Princeton Professor Robert P. George. Here is part of that post:

July 19, 2012
In the name of “marriage equality” and “non-discrimination,” liberty—especially religious liberty and the liberty of conscience—and genuine equality are undermined.

It was only yesterday, was it not, that we were being assured that the redefinition of marriage to include same-sex partnerships would have no impact on persons and institutions that hold to the traditional view of marriage as a conjugal union? Such persons and institutions would simply be untouched by the change. It won’t affect your marriage or your life, we were told, if the law recognizes Henry and Herman or Sally and Sheila as “married.”
Those offering these assurances were also claiming that the redefinition of marriage would have no impact on the public understanding of marriage as a monogamous and sexually exclusive partnership. No one, they insisted, wanted to alter those traditional marital norms. On the contrary, the redefinition of marriage would promote and spread those norms more broadly.

When some of us warned that all of this was nonsense, and pointed out the myriad ways that Catholics, Evangelicals, Mormons, Eastern Orthodox Christians, Orthodox Jews, Muslims, and others would be affected, and their opportunities and liberties restricted, the proponents of marriage redefinition accused us of “fearmongering.” When we observed that reducing marriage to a merely emotional union (which is what happens when sexual reproductive complementarity is banished from the definition) removes all principled grounds for understanding marriage as a sexually exclusive and faithful union of two persons, and not an “open” partnership or a relationship of three or more persons in a polyamorous sexual ensemble, we were charged with invalid slippery-slope reasoning. Remember?

No one, they assured us, would require Catholic or other foster care and adoption services to place children in same-sex headed households. No one, they said, would require religiously affiliated schools and social-service agencies to treat same-sex partners as spouses, or impose penalties or disabilities on those that dissent. No one would be fired from his or her job (or suffer employment discrimination) for voicing support for conjugal marriage or criticizing same-sex sexual conduct and relationships. And no one was proposing to recognize polyamorous relationships or normalize “open marriages,” nor would redefinition undermine the norms of sexual exclusivity and monogamy in theory or practice.

That was then; this is now....

Read the entire piece by Professor Robert George posted at
http://www.thepublicdiscourse.com/2012/07/5884 .

Marriage redefinition or marriage expansion will not provide marriage equality. Rather, it will oppress and dilute marriage, weaken families, and destabilize the foundations of society. Marriage redefinition harms family restoration.

6.06.2012

Personal Purity is the Best Foundation for a Strong Marriage and Family


Olympic hurdler and Iowa track athlete, Lolo Jones, now 29, recently shared her personal stand for purity on HBO's "Real Sports with Bryant Gumbal."
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Real Sports #182 – Lolo Jones – Until Marriage.

The Today Show also reported on Lolo Jones' decision and lifestyle of staying a virgin until marriage. See that report at
http://todayinlondon.today.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/05/23/11836263-olympian-lolo-jones-29-is-staying-a-virgin-until-marriage?lite.

Families based on a marriage like the one Lolo desires form the strongest foundation for family strength.

10.04.2011

Sex, Dating and Family Restoration

Why is the divorce rate so high in America today?  Undoubtedly people love each other when they get married.  But why do so many marriages end in divorce?  One pastor is taking on sex, dating and marriage with a special series from a biblical standpoint.  As he confronts this important area of culture and law, he points out that poor dating practices are why marriages are failing today.  
Access to these messages can be found at
This four part series by Dr. Andy Stanley of North Point Church in Atlanta, Georgia is designed for every person who ever wants to be happily married.   In each part he deals with different misconceptions about sex, dating and marriage, and eventually leads his audience to the keys for a strong lifelong marriage that averts divorce.  Dr. Stanley disentangles the web of confusion culture has spun and offers keys for family restoration founded in a solid dating experience that leads to marital happiness.
[Thanks to Regent Law 2L John Batchelor for this information and post.]

2.10.2011

The Heart of the Life Issue: A Clean Heart

Life is about relationships, and communication in those relationships can sometimes be challenging, as you can see: http://www.flixxy.com/woman-language-translator.htm.
New life begins with that communication.  The progression from a relationship to an abortion goes something like this: Relationship leads to sexual activity; sexual activity leads to pregnancy; pregnancy leads to new life - or abortion.  
When the evidence on abortion is considered, American Christians look much like the world they live in.  According to the Center for Bio-Ethical Reform, in 2008 "[w]omen identifying themselves as Protestants obtain 37.4% of all abortions in the U.S.; Catholic women account for 31.3%, Jewish women account for 1.3%, and women with no religious affiliation obtain 23.7% of all abortions. 18% of all abortions are performed on women who identify themselves as 'Born-gain/Evangelical'; and 93% of all abortions occur for social reasons (i.e. the child is unwanted or inconvenient)." See http://www.abortionno.org/Resources/fast… 
These numbers are similar to those reported by a study by the Alan Guttmacher Institute cited at http://www.abort73.com/abortion/abortion_in_the_church/  found that “43% of all aborting women identify themselves as Protestant, while 27% identify themselves as Catholic.  If these numbers are accurate, that leaves us with the shocking conclusion that 70% of all abortions in the U.S. are performed on women who claim the name of Jesus Christ.”  This is hard to stomach.   Now it is true that the Guttmacher Institute supports abortion, and it is the research arm of Planned Parenthood and it might have an interest in demonstrating high numbers of “religious” women aborting, and surveys can be manipulated, but it is also undeniable that abortion is happening with great frequency in the church.  Christians are aborting in great numbers. 
Abortion in the Christian Community is a major problem, and it make family restoration all the more challenging. 
From the life web project called “Hands and Feet” at http://newheights.wordpress.com/2008/03/17/abortion-statistics/ the author writes:
[In researching this material] this is the number that hit me the hardest. Only 24% of abortions are performed on those who call themselves non-religious. … This means that nearly 70% of abortions are on those who call themselves Christians [or identify somehow with Christianity]. Do you hear why trying to legislate abortion floors me? If believers would just stop having abortions then the number could drop by 70%. Christians are fighting to make something illegal that’s largest client base are other Christians.  You can claim that these are fringe believers… but our local center will tell you [that some who chose abortion] are leading ministries within their church and are active in the Christian community. Can we not see how this smacks of hypocrisy to the unbeliever? Maybe we should wait until the numbers change before we start pointing fingers at those who support and perform abortions. Maybe we should look at our hearts because if I’m not mistaken laws don’t bring holiness.
Abortion in the Christian Community is a major problem. What these numbers do clarify is that there are a lot of people in America who claim some allegiance to Christ but do not live as Christians.  There are also a lot of churches that are not sufficiently exposing the evil of abortion.  Some fear offending those in the congregation, some simply avoid the topic for privacy reasons, and some rationalize that is it not happening in their congregation or Christian community.  The secrecy and privacy surrounding abortion is a very convenient way to hide the public sin of out-of-wedlock pregnancy. 
Many Christians are adamantly pro-life until they or someone they love is faced with an unplanned pregnancy – especially one which threatens to expose their own adultery or fornication.  82% of all abortions in the United States are performed on unmarried women.  This means that at least 82% of all abortions are a direct result of sexual sin.  “Where sexual sin ceases, abortion will cease, both in the church and in the population at large.”  Can abortion be eliminated from the world if abortion is not eliminated from the church?   
The research of Christian demography expert, George Barna, was cited in Statistics For a Changing Church: Of the ten moral behaviors evaluated, a majority of Americans believed that at least three of the ten listed activities were 'morally acceptable.' “Those included gambling (61%), co-habitation (60%), and sexual fantasies (59%). Nearly half of the adult population felt that two other behaviors were also morally acceptable: having an abortion (45%) and having a sexual relationship with someone of the opposite sex other than their spouse (42%). About one-third of the population gave the stamp of approval to pornography (38%), profanity (36%), drunkenness (35%) and homosexual sex (30%).”  However, the one bright spot was that “...Less than one out of every ten evangelical Christians maintained that adultery, gay sex, pornography, profanity, drunkenness and abortion are morally acceptable." (See Barna Research, Nov. 2003, at http://www.crossroad.to/charts/church-statistics.html.) There is hope, but the church in America is not what is should be.
Abortion is really about sexual impurity.  It is about the sexual impurity of Christians.  The inverse - sexual purity - must start with a clean heart.  And a clean heart is one’s integrity.  Our personal choices reflect the condition of our hearts.  A brief look at some of our personal choices is revealing. 

Consider intimacy apart from marriage.  A study in 1991 of college freshmen showed that "about two- thirds of men (66.3 percent) and slightly more than one-third of women (37.9 percent) support the idea of sex between people who have known each other only for a short time." See American Freshman annual study.  As sobering as such statistics may be, they indicate that not everyone is sexually active, but many are.  A 2009 study revealed that “46% of high school students had sexual intercourse and 13.8% had four or more sex partners during their life.” See http://www.sadd.org/stats.htm.

“There is growing evidence that marital infidelity is [] a problem among Christians. An article in a 1997 issue of Newsweek magazine noted that various surveys suggest that as many as 30 percent of male Protestant ministers have had sexual relationships with women other than their wives. The Journal of Pastoral Care in 1993 reported a survey of Southern Baptist pastors in which 14 percent acknowledged they had engaged in "sexual behavior inappropriate to a minister." It also reported that 70 percent had counseled at least one woman who had had intercourse with another minister.”  See http://www.infidelity-etc.com/index.php/4.

Consider pornography.   As reported in an article by Kenny Luck on Pastors.com, in 2007 70% of Christians admitted to struggling with pornography in their daily lives.  And you guessed it, that was picked up and report by CNN.  In another poll taken in August of 2006, 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women admitted an addiction to pornography. 60% of the women who answered the survey admitted to having significant struggles with lust; 40% admitted to being involved in sexual sin in the past year; and 20% of the church-going female participants said they struggled with looking at pornography on an ongoing basis. (See also ChristiaNet poll reported by Marketwire.com).   In December of 2000, the National Coalition to Protect Children and Families surveyed 5 Christian Campuses to see how the next generation of believers was doing with sexual purity, and they found that 48% of males admitted to current porn use; 68% of males said they intentionally viewed a sexually explicit site at [their Christian] school.

Roger Charman of Focus on the Family's Pastoral Ministries reports that approximately 20 percent of the calls received on their Pastoral Care Line are for help with issues such as pornography and compulsive sexual behavior. A 1996 Promise Keepers survey at one of their stadium events revealed that over 50% of the men in attendance were involved with pornography within one week of attending the event.  In a 2000 Christianity Today survey, 33% of clergy admitted to having visited a sexually explicit Web site. Of those who had visited a porn site, 53% had visited such sites “a few times” in the past year, and 18% visit sexually explicit sites between a couple of times a month and more than once a week.  Out of 81 pastors surveyed (74 males 7 female), 98% had been exposed to porn; 43% intentionally accessed a sexually explicit website.  (See National Coalition survey of pastors, Seattle (April 2000).)  In his book, "Men's Secret Wars", Patrick Means reveals a confidential survey of evangelical pastors and church lay leaders. Sixty-four percent of these Christian leaders confirm that they are struggling with sexual addiction or sexual compulsion including, but not limited to use of pornography, compulsive masturbation, or other secret sexual activity.  34% of female readers of Today's Christian Woman's online newsletter admitted to intentionally accessing Internet porn in a recent poll.  In March of 2002 Rick Warren’s (author of the Purpose Driven life) Pastors.com website conducted a survey on porn use of 1351 pastors: 54% of the pastors had viewed Internet pornography within the last year, and 30% of these had visited within the last 30 days.  From another source, 47% percent of families said pornography is a problem in their home. (See Focus on the Family Poll, October 1, 2003.)  

These two areas alone, intimacy apart from marriage and pornography, create much of the temptation that leads to unintended pregnancies, which lead to abortion.  The result of the lack of self governance in these areas is personal devastation.  It is community devastation as well.  So what is the solution? 

 A clean heart is one’s integrity.  In 2 Corinthians 1, the Apostle Paul expressed his dismay with the Corinthians, and exhorted them to self governance and personal discipline because they were indwelt by Christ, but were not acting like it.  Instead, they were grieving him deeply, so much so that he could not bear the pain of visiting them.  But he clarified the forgiveness available to the repentant sinner in 2 Corinthians 2.
 
 Genuine Repentance is Necessary.  Involvement with anything that compromises your integrity, or corrupts your heart requires repentance.   In Psalm 51:1-9, King David comes to terms with his own sin.  Verse 10 begs for the creation of a clean heart, a pure heart, and the renewal of a steadfast spirit.  Only then can forgiveness and mercy be appropriated.

Forgiveness & Mercy are Available.  I John 1:9 clarifies these facts, stating that when we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.  He will not cast you from His presence; and He will renew the joy you ought to have in Christ (Psalm 51:11-12). When you confess and experience genuine repentance, you experience real forgiveness, real mercy, being spared what you really deserve, and instead can experience new joy in Christ.  This is the joy of a clean heart.  Only these can bring an end to abortion.
A clean heart is the heart of the life issue.  A clean heart is at the foundation of family restoration.  A clean heart enjoys relationships, maintains that clean heart with genuine repentance and a changed life on a moment by moment basis.  In this manner the Christian community will produce less abortion.   Our future depends on it. 

1.03.2011

Early Sexuality Destroys Childhood ldeals of Family

"Pedophiles New Playground: How Primetime Television and Movies Are Supporting Pedophilia," by Caitlin Walters, Regent Law Juris Doctor Candidate 2011, is an excellent analysis of popular entertainment as excellent fodder for child abuse by pedophiles. After detailing some notable scenes in recent film and television, she writes,
"Primetime television and movies are making it so that pedophiles no longer have to purchase illegal pornography to fulfill their perverted desires. Pedophiles can simply turn on the television or go to the movies and see depictions of minors acting sexually or having a relationship with someone over the age of 18. These depictions could lead a pedophile to believe that it is acceptable to view children as sexual objects and acceptable for children to engage in sexual acts. Even more dangerous than a pedophile believing that children are sexual objects and that it is acceptable for adults to engage in sexual relationships with minors is that minors may start to believe that these are acceptable behaviors. It may be easy for the average viewer to only view a television show or movie that paints a minor as a sexual being for the entertainment value. However, the public needs to realize that pedophiles and minors do not have this same ability.

Society needs to decide whether the potential of high ratings and entertainment value provided by these shows is worth encouraging or supporting pedophiles and confusing and victimizing children. Section I of this paper will discuss how the media is giving pedophiles materials that they can watch privately to fulfill their desires, replacing illegal child pornography. Child pornography is a form of child abuse that presents unique dangers to the victims. This section will discuss part of the history of American court's treatment of child pornography. It will demonstrate how the line between prime time television and pornography is becoming increasingly blurry. It is disturbing to think that the types of images that a pedophile uses to satisfy their perverted desires are the same images that are shown during the largest watched time slot on television. Section II of this paper will discuss how pedophiles use child pornography to victimize children, and how different television shows and movies are making it possible for pedophiles to move away from using illegal child pornography. Pedophiles use child pornography to desensitize children to sexual acts and to give the child something to mimic. This section will discuss how the provocative scenes in movies like Little Miss Sunshine and network television shows like Glee can be used by pedophiles to seduce children. Section III of this paper will briefly question whether the increasing number of television shows and movies that sexualize children has the possibility of resulting in a greater acceptance of this type of behavior.

The media has historically desensitized society to many controversial topics. Multiple groups are fighting for recognition and support for relationships between minors and adults. Physical relationships between adults and minors are present in different shows and movies, including shows that are on "family friendly" stations like ABC Family. Research has shown that media plays an important role in adolescent sexual socialization. This role may lead to a greater acceptance of minors acting sexually, and an eventual desensitization and acceptance of sexual relationships between adults and minors."

Read the entire article here.