Love is Blind??

 

 This guest post is from Chloe Holden, Regent Law 2L:

Netflix’s show, Love is Blind, is an experiment to see if people can fall in love with someone without seeing their appearance. Love is Blind’s newest season caused a stir in the media because of how horrible some couples treated each other. Due to the failure of most of the experiments, people online described this show as promoting a toxic cycle of abusive relationships. The roots of the show, and why people watch it in the first place, stem from wanting to believe that people can truly love each other for who they are instead of being attracted to someone because of his or her appearance. They want to believe our society is not so far gone and that people are not all shallow. They are searching for someone who will love them for who they are and find something that will last. What they are looking for is what God designed in 1 Corinthians 13. They’re just looking for it in their own strength and not through God’s design for relationships.

A “Christian” couple on the show caused the most drama with how horribly they treated each other and then would bring God into the mix. At the end of the show the guy was sobbing saying how he regretted ever doing the show. While seeing how broken these people were and how they kept hurting each other, I couldn’t help but think of 1 Corinthians 13:4-7. “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things.”

Although this show and our society are far from God’s definition of love, it doesn’t have to be this way. As Christians, we should lead the example of how to love as God has called us to love. We should be building each other up, correcting in love and truth, restoring those who have fallen, mourning with the hurt, and being Jesus’s hands and feet on the earth. We can only do this when we take away our selfish ambition and desire to rule our lives. We can have the kind of love Jesus offers when we surrender our lives to Him and let Him transform us. Only then can we build strong and healthy relationships and marriages. Only with God’s love can it be true that “Love is Blind.”